So my lady and I broke up tonight. And although it really needed to happen, I still feel like shit. Have any words of encouragement? 2008-07-06T23:11:58-04:00 44 2008-07-06T02:44:05-04:00 true 0 4890 false false 433 245 1 2010-03-11T13:23:34-05:00 833 ah dude im sorry to hear that! just jam out some of your favorite tunes and draw/design stuff just to get your mind off it. thats usually what i do when im either angry or in a bad situation with a girl or whatever, it works too man! hope everything works out nateeeeeee 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:50:00-04:00 128338 890 2008-07-06T02:50:00-04:00 There's plenty of fish in the sea, but there's also a lot of fish you have to throw back. You're young. You've got a lot of road ahead of you. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:50:28-04:00 128339 4999 2008-07-06T02:51:06-04:00 That sucks dude, really does. You should come on emptees AIM chat and talk about random crap with us :) 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:50:55-04:00 128340 3005 2008-07-06T02:50:55-04:00 <blockquote><cite>Ameeee said:</cite> That sucks dude, really does. You should come on emptees AIM chat and talk about random crap with us :)</blockquote> How how how? 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:51:44-04:00 128341 245 2008-07-06T02:51:44-04:00 <blockquote><cite>MasterControl said:</cite> There's plenty of fish in the sea, but there's also a lot of fish you have to throw back. You're young. You've got a lot of road ahead of you.</blockquote> Your so wise. :) 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:51:56-04:00 128342 245 2008-07-06T02:52:03-04:00 Go to Buddy chat and type in your AIM name to invite yourself, then type "emptees" in the spot for room name. You'll have fun, we're random! 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:53:28-04:00 128343 3005 2008-07-06T02:53:28-04:00 dude.. your at bottom but it gets better. I was in a relationship of 21 months and it shouldve ended at 6. but its hard to let of someone regardless of how terrible the situation is... just find something to keep your mind busy. nad just realize that it was for the best and keep reminding yourself why it had to happen. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:53:50-04:00 128344 1328 2008-07-06T02:53:50-04:00 <blockquote><cite>Ameeee said:</cite> Go to Buddy chat and type in your AIM name to invite yourself, then type "emptees" in the spot for room name. You'll have fun, we're random!</blockquote> I dont have AIM, I can never get it to install on a MAC. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:56:09-04:00 128345 245 2008-07-06T02:56:09-04:00 I'm not good at words of encouragement when it comes to relationships.. but just think of all the extra money you'll be saving. As you said above it really needed to happen. It will take time to get past it but whenever you do it will certainly have been worth it, it usually is. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:56:21-04:00 128346 3352 2008-07-06T03:08:40-04:00 Thanks guys. I am actually gonna just try and crash. It would be awesome to wake up to some more nice words! 4890 Post 2008-07-06T02:58:40-04:00 128347 245 2008-07-06T02:58:40-04:00 keep your chin up, holmes. most dudes have to go through at least a few rough break-ups before finding the right one - so that's one more heartbreak off the list, dude! be excited for the future! 4890 Post 2008-07-06T03:21:37-04:00 128356 497 2008-07-06T03:21:37-04:00 <blockquote><cite>seibei said:</cite> be excited for the future!</blockquote> things will surely get better. ice cream usually speeds up that process. plus, ladies love a guy who knows how to handle the pen tool, it's a fact! 4890 Post 2008-07-06T04:59:53-04:00 128379 1404 2008-07-06T05:00:07-04:00 Dude, just be happy that you're no longer obligated to attend bullshit family functions that you don't care about just because she wants to show you off. Or you can also be happy for the fact that you can do whatever the hell you want without having to worry whether or not it's okay or approved of by the other person. Or maybe you can be happy about chilling with your boys whenever the hell you want and doing whatever you want. Man... am I the only person that loves complete freedom? It's okay to be sad though, I understand. The best thing to do is not beat yourself up over it, keep yourself busy and take a good long time for yourself. I listen to too much Tom Leykis. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T05:06:42-04:00 128380 2765 2008-07-06T05:06:42-04:00 things will get better, you'll find someone new. i know i sound like a broken record, but it's totally true. enjoy your freedom while you have it. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T05:08:55-04:00 128381 884 2008-07-06T05:08:55-04:00 <blockquote><cite>seibei said:</cite> keep your chin up, holmes. most dudes have to go through at least a few rough break-ups before finding the right one - so that's one more heartbreak off the list, dude! be excited for the future!</blockquote> Hes right, everything will get better even if you cant see it now. Things will work out for you. I don't know you too much myself,but that chick across the room in the floppy hat... she just eye fucked the shit out of you. Go ahead, look at me. Can I just say one more thing? I'm not gonna say, you know, there's plenty more fish in the sea. I'm not going to say if you love her, let her go. And I'm not going to bombard you with clichÈs. But what I will say is this. Its not the end of the world. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T05:09:49-04:00 128383 1101 2008-07-06T05:12:16-04:00 Hey I reckon dwell and cry all day - For Ever, Emma by Bon Iver is a 5 star album :) 4890 Post 2008-07-06T05:41:37-04:00 128387 3005 2008-07-06T05:41:37-04:00 bummer man. but dood... youre a good looking avatar. there are 6,602,224,175 people in the world. half that maybe for female gender. i guarantee you could prolly hook up with at least (being very conservative) .5% of that and more if you could live longer. which at half percent is still 16 million women. start making t-shirt designs for women, and they will be all over you. ;j insert cliche. insert practical advice like, power through it, move on, hang with friends, dont be alone even if you want to after the initial grieving period. ive been dumped more than i have dumped, but after the 1009909th time, i learned making a clean break FOREVER is the best thing to do. forget about reconcile. dont get bitter, dont think the relationship was useless or lies. by that, every relationship helps you learn how to try to have a better one, and what type of traits you DONT want in a partner. and about thinking it was a sham, like thinking the person never loved you because they ended it, etc etc. for the moments they did, you two lived it, and it was, and although it isnt now, it was then. appreciate that, and know you can build that with someone else. and one more thing... theres always better. sounds crappy, but you just have to find one that is better, but more importantly, one that is willing to build with you semi permanently, cause that will be the better part of them. also im single. so dont listen to me. im a failure with relationships. although the ones that i was dumped by, im sure they regret in a short of way because i always gave my all to let them know i cared for them. especially the ones that end up getting a crappy bf, or divorced, and they try to contact you year after year while you ignore them. f--k that bitty! lol. you will always have Emptees. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T08:46:56-04:00 128404 2865 2008-07-06T08:46:56-04:00 <blockquote><cite>jimiyo said:</cite> bummer man. but dood... youre a good looking avatar. there are 6,602,224,175 people in the world. half that maybe for female gender. i guarantee you could prolly hook up with at least (being very conservative) .5% of that and more if you could live longer. which at half percent is still 16 million women. start making t-shirt designs for women, and they will be all over you. ;j insert cliche. insert practical advice like, power through it, move on, hang with friends, dont be alone even if you want to after the initial grieving period. ive been dumped more than i have dumped, but after the 1009909th time, i learned making a clean break FOREVER is the best thing to do. forget about reconcile. dont get bitter, dont think the relationship was useless or lies. by that, every relationship helps you learn how to try to have a better one, and what type of traits you DONT want in a partner. and about thinking it was a sham, like thinking the person never loved you because they ended it, etc etc. for the moments they did, you two lived it, and it was, and although it isnt now, it was then. appreciate that, and know you can build that with someone else. and one more thing... theres always better. sounds crappy, but you just have to find one that is better, but more importantly, one that is willing to build with you semi permanently, cause that will be the better part of them. also im single. so dont listen to me. im a failure with relationships. although the ones that i was dumped by, im sure they regret in a short of way because i always gave my all to let them know i cared for them. especially the ones that end up getting a crappy bf, or divorced, and they try to contact you year after year while you ignore them. f--k that bitty! lol. you will always have Emptees.</blockquote> +1 on Clean Break, and learning from mistakes/relationship. life is a bunch of building blocks, just keep trying until you find the best way to stack 'em 4890 Post 2008-07-06T08:56:03-04:00 128406 1328 2008-07-06T08:56:03-04:00 The best way to get over a girl is another girl. =) 4890 Post 2008-07-06T09:32:31-04:00 128414 1259 2008-07-06T09:32:31-04:00 <blockquote><cite>collisiontheory said:</cite> The best way to get over a girl is another girl. =)</blockquote> ehhhh... I tried to hook up with a girl after a long relationship and I ended up feigning a drunk sleep cause it was weird. haha destroyed her ego! wait till your ready, drunken rebound at your own risk! 4890 Post 2008-07-06T09:51:07-04:00 128416 1328 2008-07-06T09:51:07-04:00 <blockquote><cite>collisiontheory said:</cite> The best way to get over a girl is another girl. =)</blockquote> +1 yes, before CollisionTheory was snagged into marital bliss, he often philandered from city to city, country to country, in the loving arms of many an exotic women, leaving a path of broken hearts and bastard children. i read about it. diary of don dimarucot. made into movie, played by johnny depp. now he just has a secret harem of women to keep his insatiable needs from wanderlust in search for sexy love. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T09:51:35-04:00 128417 2865 2008-07-06T09:52:40-04:00 I think this calls for a round of wild, unprotected sex with the local prostitutes. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T10:08:54-04:00 128422 1661 2008-07-06T10:08:54-04:00 <blockquote><cite>justgeoff said:</cite> I think this calls for a round of wild, unprotected sex with the local prostitutes.</blockquote> always worked for me 4890 Post 2008-07-06T11:05:18-04:00 128436 173 2008-07-06T11:05:18-04:00 http://emptees.com/posts/2094-good-breakup-songs-artists Welcome to the breakup club. I still live with my ex which is just about the worst shit ever but should be ending this week hopefully. Its been a long 3 or 4 months. Fuck them ho's. <blockquote><cite>justgeoff said:</cite> I think this calls for a round of wild, unprotected sex with the local prostitutes.</blockquote> This is actually more or less a good idea. Hate fucking random sluts is actually really theraputic. As is excessive drinking. This is more if you are the dumpee though. Stand strong. As Tom Waits once said, "You can never go back, and the answer is no, and wishing for it only makes it bleed." 4890 Post 2008-07-06T11:20:23-04:00 128439 1135 2008-07-06T11:23:24-04:00 Yo man. I feel youre pain. I'm at the end of a long and painful breakup myself. Ladies come and go but you're homeboys will always be there. Go have a brew and listen to plenty of positive music. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T11:30:00-04:00 128441 5006 2008-07-06T11:30:00-04:00 ah man, i'm real sorry to hear that. i've been through some rough breakups myself, i know how it is. but the way i always see it is that it just wasn't meant to be; even though it's hard to hear it. i strongly believe that everything happens for a reason. but seriously, be excited for the future because i'm sure you'll find someone who will make you so happy. oh and by the way, when you find that girl who makes you so happy and you think everything's great, your ex is going to want you back. be prepared to deal with that. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T11:32:14-04:00 128442 269 2008-07-06T11:35:24-04:00 think of her taking the nastiest shit as she drinks her own menstruation. works for me. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T11:58:29-04:00 128453 853 2008-07-06T11:58:29-04:00 break ups are never easy dude, you just gotta put things in perspective. If you settle for someone who doesnt truly make you happy then your just settin yourself up for a larger world of pain in the future. I know its not easy, but you gotta try to look at this as "for the better" because, although you may not see it right away, it most likely is... wish you nothing but the best fam and I hope u find Mrs. Right, not just lil miss right now 4890 Post 2008-07-06T12:06:08-04:00 128456 1498 2008-07-06T12:06:08-04:00 i hear ya. my girl of over a year and i broke up last week too. but it had been brewing for a while. what helps me everytime is sunny day real estate "diary". kills it every time im sad about something. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T12:16:41-04:00 128458 1271 2008-07-06T12:16:41-04:00 get real drunk and bone her best friend. you'll feel better. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T12:50:03-04:00 128463 881 2008-07-06T12:50:03-04:00 <blockquote><cite>Cole said:</cite> get real drunk and bone her best friend. you'll feel better.</blockquote> even if its a dude. that would even be a more heinous revenge. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T13:08:56-04:00 128467 2865 2008-07-06T13:08:56-04:00 i hear beth is looking for a new boytoy. or i mean, you could always take mitch up on his offer. essentially never forget that bitches ain't nothin but ho's and tricks. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T13:36:45-04:00 128484 173 2008-07-06T13:37:18-04:00 GET TESTED!! All women are cheating sluts...except your mom...and me 4890 Post 2008-07-06T14:05:59-04:00 128511 433 2008-07-06T14:05:59-04:00 <blockquote><cite>hideouscarwreck said:</cite> things will get better, you'll find someone new. i know i sound like a broken record, but it's totally true. enjoy your freedom while you have it.</blockquote> dan, she rhymed. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T14:13:45-04:00 128517 4999 2008-07-06T14:13:45-04:00 <blockquote><cite>MasterControl said:</cite> <blockquote><cite>hideouscarwreck said:</cite> things will get better, you'll find someone new. i know i sound like a broken record, but it's totally true. enjoy your freedom while you have it.</blockquote> dan, she rhymed.</blockquote> You have an opus. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T14:18:08-04:00 128519 997 2008-07-06T14:18:08-04:00 This is an epic thread. Thanks everyone, your words are awesome. It was a crazy night of talking and such- but this morning I was able to make a clean break. I am glad our lease ended not too long ago. Although all the advice was varied, I will take it all to heart. Fuck prostitutes plus .5% of the world. Listen to happy songs. Go fishing. Get tested. Get drunk. Bone her best male friend. Fix a broken record... etc. I will have tons more time to do the stuff I want to do. More designing- maybe I will finally buy a wacom. Although, Miller had some negative things to say about it. And it is true, I will always have emptees... Thanks again everyone. I felt great to read all of it. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T15:28:20-04:00 128558 245 2008-07-06T15:28:20-04:00 <blockquote><cite>Nate said:</cite> . And it is true, I will always have emptees... .</blockquote> Until the internet dies! 4890 Post 2008-07-06T16:16:27-04:00 128579 433 2008-07-06T16:16:27-04:00 hey, if you bone her best guy friend its a twofer 1. U get back at her And 2. U can wear your purple tees again! Sweet 4890 Post 2008-07-06T18:28:28-04:00 128667 1498 2008-07-06T18:28:53-04:00 <blockquote><cite>LitoQ said:</cite> hey, if you bone her best guy friend its a twofer 1. U get back at her And 2. U can wear your purple tees again! Sweet</blockquote> hahaaaaa 4890 Post 2008-07-06T21:41:22-04:00 128718 3005 2008-07-06T21:41:22-04:00 get her pregnant and kill her. then bury. 4890 Post 2008-07-06T21:42:13-04:00 128720 853 2008-07-06T21:42:13-04:00 <blockquote><cite>Nate said:</cite> <blockquote><cite>Ameeee said:</cite> Go to Buddy chat and type in your AIM name to invite yourself, then type "emptees" in the spot for room name. You'll have fun, we're random!</blockquote> I dont have AIM, I can never get it to install on a MAC.</blockquote> ichat? 4890 Post 2008-07-06T21:43:47-04:00 128724 1112 2008-07-06T21:43:47-04:00 http://ADULTFRIENDFINDER.COM 4890 Post 2008-07-06T22:16:45-04:00 128750 4752 2008-07-06T22:17:40-04:00 <blockquote><cite>Nate said:</cite> I will have tons more time to do the stuff I want to do. More designing- maybe I will finally buy a wacom. Although, Miller had some negative things to say about it. </blockquote> haha, well a lot of people love wacoms! they're just not for me i guess lol take a chance and get one, if you hate it they hold their value pretty well on ebay haha <blockquote><cite>shantyshawn said:</cite> HTTP://ADULTFRIENDFINDER.COM</blockquote> hahha 4890 Post 2008-07-06T22:20:04-04:00 128752 269 2008-07-06T22:20:26-04:00 <blockquote><cite>shantyshawn said:</cite> http://ADULTFRIENDFINDER.COM</blockquote> why the hell did I click that!! 4890 Post 2008-07-06T23:11:58-04:00 128781 433 2008-07-06T23:11:58-04:00